Melissa Nanavati helps high performers build thriving, peaceful relationships, without sacrificing ambition. As a speaker, author, and Relationship Architect, she blends neuroscience, biology, and lived experience to teach high achievers how to apply the same skills that drive their success in business to love. Despite success as a best-selling textbook author and Fortune 100 consultant, Melissa struggled with anxious attachment and went on over 100 first dates before meeting her husband. Today, Melissa shares the science-backed frameworks and tools with ambitious individuals who want a relationship that powers peak performance. She is a trusted coach for executives, founders, and driven individuals seeking a grounded, actionable approach to love.
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Love isn’t luck, it’s a skill. Melissa’s “four muscles of relational courage.” (1:07)
Her personal confession of a decade of anxiety, people-pleasing, and believing her needs weren’t valid. (2:03)
The fear behind not asking for what you need. (4:45)
The chemistry of relationships requires dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin and why the honeymoon phase doesn’t have to end. (5:14)
The paradox of structure allows scheduling to bring back spontaneity and desire. (7:12)
A nightly ritual that may save your marriage. (8:32)
The BRAVE framework for hard conversations. (10:34)
One shocking stat: Couples who end tough talks with physical touch are 80% less likely to repeat the same fight. (16:27)
She shares the toughest conversation when her husband asked to return to Antarctica just two days after nearly losing his life there. (19:47)
Her true fear beyond abandonment; it was more about the future they planned together. (24:34)
The mantra that healed her anxious attachment and patterns of abandonment (23:58)
How she forgave every single person from her past in five days with neurofeedback at 40 Years of Zen. (25:27)
Why triggers and discomfort point us to our deepest work. (27:45)
When one partner isn’t growing like the other, be the example and watch your relationship transform. (35:20)
When is it time to end a relationship? (37:10) Re-igniting intimacy after decades together with novelty. (38:43)
The four core virtues of Peak Performance Love: curiosity, courage, play, and presence. (40:35)
Her definition of love: “Love is accepting someone fully, exactly as they are… and realizing love is a choice.” (41:33)
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